When I was seven years old my parents and I went to visit some friends in Hartford Connecticut. My mom, Elsie and I were off to the grocery store on a sunny Saturday morning. I remember being excited to be in the city and doing errands with “the girls”.
On our way out of the grocery store, with grocery bags in hand, 10 feet from our car, a tall man, grabbed my moms purse. You know the kind of purse I mean, the kind that you can put everything in it including the kitchen sink.
I remember my mom yelling “NO” a lot! I remember being shoved into the back seat by Elsie and her locking the car doors while she went to help my mom up from the ground. I remember that the top of my moms hand was bleeding and her elbow was scrapped. I remember feeling helpless and crying as I watched this happen to my mom. Just recalling this event still gets my heart rate up a bit.
Fast forward to two months ago, my mom was visiting and we were in the city with lots of foot traffic and yes she was carrying a suitcase for a purse. She was walking a few steps behind me and it was driving me crazy! I keep looking over my shoulder and my heart rate was racing. It took me a minute to understand what was going on.
Interestingly, I rarely carry a purse and if I do, it’s small or utility in nature and close to my body. But what was really fascinating for me is that after all these years I was still experiences feelings of nervousness, distress and fear all from seeing my mom carry a big purse.
Once I was able to take a minute to distil this down and to understand why I was feeling agitated and nervous I was able to have a conversation with my mom and husband of why I was feeling this way. I was able to recognize that this feeling was not in accordance with my values of feeling safe and content.
Why am I sharing this with you? Because as a Life/Career Coach I take opportunities to dig a little bit deeper into things. I like to understand the things that act as triggers. You know, the ones that get you to respond in a way that you are less than proud of and would hate to see in newsprint. I also like achieving goals and living my best life. That’s why I continue to do the work for myself.
What does life/career coaching do? It helps you identify old habit patterns that are no longer working for you and teaches you methods that will give you direction but also serve as foundational markers to keep you on course for success. You’ll learn about your human design, your values, what drives you and what is keeping you from reaching your goals.
Are you really ready for change? Are you sick of spinning? If the answer is yes, reach out to me, coachvickie24@gmail.com. I will ask you to invest your time, energy and money in the one thing that no one can take away from you, your personal growth.
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